Hello. Howdy. Hola.
Each word is different. At the same time, each word seems to have the same goal. Each of these words wants to express greetings to another.
Even though hello, howdy and hola share the same purpose, the one an individual uses is determined by the family he or she grew up in. If your family rode horses and lived on a ranch you’d be much more likely to use ‘howdy’ compared to your typical family from the suburbs. And if you grew up in China you’re probably not going to say ‘hola’ when you answer the phone.
The families we come from, naturally, determine the language that we use. We talk the way our family talks. Not only do we learn our vocabulary from our parents, we learn our communication style from them as well.
Just like the Russian girl that speaks Russian, a person who comes from a ‘family of yellers’ is probably going to yell. Or a person who comes from a ‘family of bottlers’ will more than likely bottle their feelings up.
- How did your parents fight?
- What did your family fight about?
- What types of feelings came with fighting? Fear? Anger?
- How loud did fights get?
- How were fights resolved? (This is a big one. Most people never see a conflict truly resolve itself.)
What fighting language do you have? What fighting language does your spouse speak? What do you not like about your (not your partner’s) fighting language?
