What are 3 things your spouse could do to communicate love to you?
An example list -
- Quit nagging me about cleaning the gutters while I am reading your book.
- Not leave dishes in the living room.
- Stop spending Friday night working late.
Make your list of three things you want your spouse to do. Do it now. I’ll wait.
Ok, read through your list. Are you asking your partner for what you want? Or for what you don’t want?
In the example list, I’ve asked for what I don’t want. Let’s edit it to say what I want.
- I prefer talking about cleaning the gutters while we’re making dinner.
- I would like for you to put your dirty dishes in the sink.
- I want to go out to dinner this Friday night.
Edit your list and make sure you’re asking for what you want.
As a Love Experiment, inform your partner about the three things you would like that would communicate love to you.
How did it feel asking for what you want, rather than what you don’t want?
How did your partner respond to what you wanted?
What difference is there between asking for what you want and for what you don’t want?
Email this link to anyone you think might enjoy participating in this Love Experiment.
Want help editing your list? Email me at marie.mckinney@gmail.com, and I will be happy to give you pointers in asking for what you want!
